How things pan out for one person really is unique to that one person. Two years ago, I believed there was one way to do something. I got two degrees during my four-years at school, then I found a job that seemed pretty great for a recent grad. It took me less than two months to go from shooting celebratory graduation shots to decorating my first cubicle.
That was my transition. Going from crazy college kid to a young professional was almost instant. My family found it difficult to understand why I didn't want to move back to Texas to find a job and find myself. They questioned my lack of soul searching. "Why don't you spend six months at home," they asked. "Why don't you explore some opportunities and when the right one comes along, you can take it," they suggested.
Instead, I decided that I was invincible. Tackling the corporate world was my sole purpose in life and setting out to be the best I was at whatever I was doing would be the only thing for me. Well, it was a bumpy road. The startup I got my first job at went south within a year. Then, I took a couple of jobs that I felt would help me advance my career and instead showed me that maybe those six months might have been worth taking after after all.
Not everything turned out the way I planned. I worked at something I believed I was good at because I didn't know how to do anything else. I worked until I broke, until I broke my own system of doing things. Advancing my career in two years turned into more of finding out that my career choice wasn't really for me. It became finding out there is so much more in life and sometimes a choice can be a wrong choice.
My point is that life is so freakishly unpredictable. You believe what you're doing is the right thing one second and the next you find yourself asking how you got there. This is the mystery of life. And, without faith and love and some guts to admit it and turn things around, it is nearly impossible to find your way out of the maze and back onto a clear path.
Where is my path now heading? I am still deciding, but I'm also buckling up and getting ready for another ride because I know there is so much adventure that awaits. One piece of advice for recent graduates: Make a decision and love it. Embrace it; go for it. In the end, if it took you somewhere you don't like, then turn around. Make another decision. And remember the more you love your decisions, the less you need others to love them.